the courage to be vulnerable will drastically impact every single area of your life.
Before you start another weight loss program, pop another diet pill or drink another magic potion or shake…
What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. ~Brene Brown
Growing up, vulnerability was never really my strong suit. But when you think about it, It’s no wonder. In order to be vulnerable, you have to be okay with all of you. You’ve got to have courage. Vulnerability is where courage meets fear, and that’s the thing about vulnerability that most people don’t tell you.
Being vulnerable is not just about showing the parts of you that are shiny and pretty and fun (you know, the highlight reels). It’s about shining a light on the hidden, broken places you’ve been keeping from other people. We all do this to some extent. I mean, I bet you’ve never said to a friend, “Oh my gosh! I just love that I’m insecure!”
But when you think about it, isn’t that the point? You’ve got to love everything about yourself, if you want to be vulnerable by choice.
Most of us have probably experienced vulnerability through default. More often than not, we’re either forced into that state through conflict, trauma, abuse, etc.
Few of us consciously choose courage & vulnerability. Why? The stakes are too high.
If we reveal our authentic selves, flaws and all, there’s the great possibility that we will be misunderstood, labeled, or worst of all, rejected. The fear of rejection can be so powerful that some wear it like armor.
This inability to choose vulnerability is at the root cause of why you can’t lose weight. Why you can’t stick to what you say. Why all your relationships fail, and on and on. It’s keeping you from experiencing true joy and satisfaction because at the core of who you are lies this dark form of you that you refuse to let show. (I’m not trying to be harsh here, friend… I know not all of these things apply to you.. just roll with me)
So, instead of dealing with what’s causing us to struggle, we’re walking around with these masks on our faces because that’s what society expects us to do. We’re telling everyone we’re okay – if only they knew who we were when we’re alone. We’re all conditioned to just “be okay”…
How many times do we tell our children to stop being a baby, stop crying? We’re giving a message that “you’re not supposed to feel real feelings – or let your feelings show” …you’re supposed to walk around feeling like everything is okay.
The default response for so many people is “everything’s great” when there might really be something in our lives keeping us from ultimate health, peace, joy, satisfaction.
Our health suffers the most when we refuse to let go of old wounds. When we can find out why we feel bad, the real inner parts, we can deal with these things to heal our bodies.
We’ve got to get dragged over the coals, pulled through the fire and allow ourselves to be refined in the process.
You’ll never, and girl, I mean NEVER find true, lasting satisfaction, peace, joy, fulfillment in your life until you deal with the parts of you that you’ve buried in an attempt to find acceptance. Have the courage to dig deep. You won’t regret it.